One part I am loving about having older teens Is socializing . Man is it more fun with the friends of young adults than little kids that I feel compelled to play Lego and crazy eights with !
Last night we had a new very close friend of Chase's over . In college and univeristy it is hard to to know your kid's friends too well as they are always out and at shows and nightclubs or using the house when we are not here on weekends
I cornered them on this and made it happen .
He is an actor and in plays but we didn't let that stop us . We had dinner at 9:30pm on a weeknight to make it happen . All of us had activities after school and work that night but we stuck to the plan and made it happen
I love this guy !!!!!! We had cheese and crackers and veggies in the livingroom and he played piano for us and told us all about his life in Lebanon where his parents and family live .
We had such an interesting and animated evening and it was so fun to get to know someone so different that Chase has been hanging out with lots lately
He has exposed chase to so many new things : theatre and art and boxing and dance and different cultures they make a fun duo and pick up a lot of woman together !!! Chick magnets both of them :)
But the best part of evening was how special this special guest made Beauty feel . He was super interested in hearing her thoughts and ideas and asking her about her views and her boyfriend . I think he sensed beauty's creative side and they connected on that level . He made her feel like a million bucks . And I felt so happy for her . I remembered as a teenager having two older brothers and how I felt when they paid attention to me and were some of the happiest memories of childhood
He asked her all about her boyfriend whom she adores talking about and she was telling him she one day wants to marry her boyfriend . He went with this :) He was telling her that know that he came to our home for dinner she should now consider him one of her brothers and that he would be there to protect her from harm . The cultures are so different and was super cool to experience his .He also casually mentioned that his family would welcome all five of us anytime in their home in Lebanon
So he invited Beauty to her dance studio on basement and asked her to show him her dances and they sang together and danced together ( chase too believe it or not ! ) . At first she was so so shy but with a lot of pushing by he and I she agreed . and I let her stay up until 11:45pm on a schoolnight uninterrupted as I knew she would Remember this forever
Nobody did chores that night . Our guest was way more interesting
I felt her glow and happiness all evening of feeling special and paid attention by the 20 yr old friend of her oldest brother
It was truly a great visit with an amazing guy . I am so happy we prioritized this dinner even if it did happen after a choir practice downtown , a hip hop practice , two busy work days and the house barely having time to be tidied . I love meeting who is important to my children . There is no greater joy in parenting for me I think
And the visits have been plentiful lately ! Beauty's beau came over for an afterschool visit before they went to his house for his bday dinner . They are so cute together and he is so handsome . There is something so special about him and I really enjoy him
Bear has his late bday dinner with his BFF who we love and who is coming on our punta Cana trip in a few weeks . He is so fun and we are going to his cottage to have dinner with his parents this weekend
Beauty has had friend after friend over and I have been loving that . These girls are so precious
I am loving sharing our lives with these young people . It truly is an honour and profound privilege
What I am loving lately is having them share their lives with me ... Not my idea of their lives .. Of what I want to see .. Or what I planned or intended for them
Their lives . Letting me see them .
Having young adults on a home is like living in a forum e and all figuring it out together in a messy crazy beautiful way
This stage ( like most dates of childhood and adolescence ) is my favorite stage. And the hardest
It's a stage that in many ways I wish could last forever . I have no need for them to grow up too quickly or be very mature and worldly . I am having the time of my life ( on many days ) just watching them goof around and fail and succeed and question themselves and grow up and then grow down a bit . It' s quiet an experience to watch it all . And on many days I want to just throw them all of our the house with the trash !!!
The paradox of parenting is always there for me . Moments like last night make it all worth it . I need to remember to make more time for my connecting to my deepest values ... And last night I felt so complete and fulfilled